The more things change, the more they change | Step 2 of 12

by Stephanie A. Lloyd on May 3, 2010 · 12 comments

in About the author,Management,The changing face of employment,Workplace Issues

Cartoon by Hugh MacLeod

Cartoon by Hugh MacLeod

As I sit here I am contemplating some recent changes I’ve made in my life.

Some I chose willingly and even happily, and some I just chose because the alternatives available to me were no longer working for me.

I’m much, much happier about the first set of changes, although those did not transpire entirely without pain or consequence, either.

And the latter set of changes…well, while I wasn’t happy about the way things were, I’m not at all happy about the way things are now either.

Those are the choices that REALLY suck.

You want A but you have B and that’s not working for you. A is still not an option, so you choose C…and then you realize that C is even further away from A than B was.

UGH.

A long time ago, a good — and very wise — friend said to me:

People only make a change when it’s easier to make the change than it is to stay the same.”

Remember the book “Who Moved My Cheese?” by Spencer Johnson, M.D.?

That book was a real eye-opener for me at a time when I really needed it.

I was working for a major U.S. life insurance company that was demutualizing in order to go public. The company was more than 150 years old and many, MANY of the corporate executives as well as agency managers, regional directors, and RVPs that I worked with had been with the company for 25 or 30 years or more.

Their entire careers.

They had started their careers there and they would end them there.

You want to talk about resistant to change??

As a twenty-something who made VP at a very early age and had a LOT riding on my shoulders during that time, it was a fabulous – though amazingly difficult – learning experience.

I mean, painful.

So much anxiety I had to see a therapist on a weekly basis just to DEAL.

The book helped me look around and see how people were either accepting change and moving forward successfully — or not.

It was a huge life lesson for me and something that is helping me process some things that I’m dealing with right now on a personal level.

Change happens.

And then more change happens.

And then more change happens after that.

Some of it we choose; some of it we like — and much of it we do not choose or like.

But we do choose how we react to it.

Lots of people have had lots of struggles over the past couple of years. Myself included.

I’ve seen so many people reach out and band together — to lend a hand to help others in whatever way they can…be it time, expertise, or money.

Some excellent examples in the recruiting and HR community are Mark Stelzner of JobAngels, and Robin Eads of JobShouts.

I’m a firm believer in the concept that a rising tide lifts all boats.

(Uh, I just realized. Kind of ironic to mention that on this day, Round 17 or whatever it is of #ATLflood…)

Anyway.

By now I am sure you are wondering what my point is and what all of this has to do with blogging.

When I first started this blog I was a prolific writer.

I was committed and I could not crank the blog posts out fast enough.

I averaged at least five a week and many times more than one in a day.

Over the past few months that deluge has dwindled to a mere trickle, and right now I would say that this blog is on life support.

I promised to bring it back and I am going to.

I promised all three of my readers – and more importantly (no offense), I promised myself.

In order to do that I’m going to have to make some changes in my life.

Some will be comfortable and others will not.

It will require re-dedication and a lot of time and thought – which will mean taking time and energy away from things I may otherwise do instead.

However, I know firsthand the benefits and rewards from being a dedicated blogger (we’ll cover that list another time!)

I know it’s only Step 2 of 12 and I have a long way to go…but I’m back, my friends.

I’m back.

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{ 12 comments }

Laura May 3, 2010 at 7:32 pm

Glad you’re back! Look forward to reading your thoughts.

Stephanie A. Lloyd May 3, 2010 at 7:34 pm

Thanks so much, Laura. :-)

imjustagoyle May 3, 2010 at 7:36 pm

W00T! And as usual, you are awesome in your entrance. ;)

Thanks for the shout out, sistah!

Stephanie A. Lloyd May 3, 2010 at 7:56 pm

Wow, thanks so much, Robin…and you’re welcome!

Trey May 3, 2010 at 8:08 pm

I totally understand about the time lapse between posts. One thing I’ve started to do is put a whiteboard on the dining room table (much to my wife’s chagrin..), that way when I have a clever thought I can write it down.

Every night before I go to bed I crank out a paragraph or post, plan some tweet etc.-something to get me started the next day. Good luck with it and happy mojo your way.

Stephanie A. Lloyd May 4, 2010 at 10:50 am

Thanks Trey…that’s a great idea. I used to be really good about putting my ideas in a new post and saving as a draft until I had the time to write.

I need to start doing that again! :-)

Adam Waid May 3, 2010 at 8:47 pm

Stephanie-

Thanks for your honesty on two levels.

First, I think so many people burden themselves and think they aren’t “great writers” if they don’t, as you say, crank 5 posts out every week. In this post, you’ve given people a little freedom to relax, but also inspiration to keep on writing, even in the midst of change.

Second, thanks for sharing your struggles during all the “change.” Change is hard. And as you say, it will ” require re-dedication and a lot of time and thought.” But, change usually works out for the best in the long run.

Looking forward to reading more posts!

-Adam

Stephanie A. Lloyd May 4, 2010 at 10:50 am

Thanks so much, Adam!

Jennifer McClure May 4, 2010 at 11:18 pm

Your adoring public is still here Stephanie! :) It’s always good to see a post from you in my Reader and I will be cheering for you to find the “right” level of blogging/sharing that best fits – to use an overused, but fitting phrase – your Best Life. You go girl!

Stephanie A. Lloyd May 5, 2010 at 12:47 pm

Jennifer, thank you so much!

I am enjoying checking out your new website…it looks great!! :-)

Kevin W. Grossman May 5, 2010 at 9:14 am

Right on, Stephanie. Own the change reaction; own the ride. And then make it the best damn thing you’ve ever done.

Stephanie A. Lloyd May 5, 2010 at 12:48 pm

“Own the change reaction; own the ride.”

Love it!

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